An Imaginary Scenario:
My five children and I are standing in line at a store, and we notice a mother and her adolescent-age child minding their own business.
Being the "social" animal that I am, I decide to strike up friendly conversation.
Me: "Is that your only child?!"
Other Mom: "Oh, yes. My hands are full."
Me: "Yikes! Do you need me to tell you how to have more? I assure you, the process is quite enjoyable. Perhaps you and your husband should turn off the TV once in a while and give it a try!"
Other Mom: [Speechless; stunned at my audacity]
Me: "So, how long have you homeschooled your little prince?"
Other Mom: [Appalled at my assumption] "Homeschooled?! I could never do that! He happens to go to one of the very best schools in the state!"
Me: "Oh, my! You should really consider taking him out of school and teaching him yourself. Aren't you afraid he'll pick up bad habits from all of his peers, who still need to learn, themselves, how to behave properly and respect others?"
Other Mom: "Don't judge me!"
* Think that's bold and rude? *
An Actual Scenario:
My five children and I are standing in line at a store, minding our business, when another mother - wanting to distract herself from an argument she's having with her child over (insert item) - strikes up a conversation with me:
Other Mother: "Are they all yours?!" [Displays counting skills, not forgotten since Kindergarten]
Me: Yes, they are.
Other Mother: "Any twins?"
Other Mother: "Wow! You must be crazy or something! I have my hands full with just this one. I can't imagine five! Don't you know what causes that?!" [Laughs at own (stupid) joke]
Me: [Silent; not dignifying last remark with a response]
Other Mother: "Well, are you done?" [Expecting the obvious "right" answer]
Me: "We'd actually love to adopt!"
Other Mother: [Flabbergasted at not hearing what she had hoped]
"You want more?!"
[Scans the crowd to see if anyone else will reinforce what she obviously thinks of this]
Me: "Oh, yes. These children bless my life! My husband and I are thankful for every one!"
Other Mother: "So, where do they all go to school?"
Me: "We homeschool."
Other Mother: "Wow! You homeschool, too?" [Shakes head slowly in pity] "So, what about socialization? I mean, do they know how to interact with other children?"
Me: "Well, they're learning to get along with each other, which is something most children don't do well with siblings. And we are a very social family, so they have no shortage of opportunities to interact with others. Really, the socialization question isn't an issue for us as it was for the pioneers of the movement over twenty years ago, when homeschooling was nearly unheard of."
Perspective is a funny thing.
The Perpetrators of Controversy:
The Care Giver
Compassionate; Gentle-Spirited; Servant-hearted (Philippians 2:5-7); Loves a good joke
(I'm so glad that birth control didn't work!)
Insightful; Methodical; Frank, but kind (Ephesians 4:15)
(I'm so thankful that she lived through having the umbilical cord wrapped thrice around her neck!)
|Craig Grayson (15)|
Strong; Unbending (Proverbs 4:27); Affectionate; Not intimidated by anyone
(I'm so glad that, in God's economy, it was perfectly fine to have another baby while Craig was back in college & we had almost no money!)
Discerning; Loyal (Proverbs 17:17); Caring; Inquisitive
(I'm so thankful that Baby #4 came along in God's perfect timing, and that he has overcome the health struggles he had as a baby!)
"For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well... All the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be."
Psalm 139:13-14, 16b
"Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate."
"The Lord remembers us and will bless us:
He will bless the house of Israel,
He will bless the house of Aaron,
He will bless those who fear the Lord -
small and great alike.
May the Lord make you increase,
both you and your children."